Taking the time to breathe, receive, accept and believe. #MorningMusings #grateful #gratefull #surTHRIVEing #Rumi #Rumiquotes #happinessisachoice #choosehappy #choosehappiness #allwhowanderarenotlost #nataliemacneil #conqueryouryear #conqueryouryearplanner #smallestpricetopayfortherestofmylife #smallestpricetopayfortherestofyourlife #seekers Continue reading What you seek is seeking you
There is often a question as to how much income is reported, and more importantly, what is the available, document-able (is that a word?) income that will be available for spousal support/alimony as well as child support. The good news is, you are a fully functioning member of your family’s Joint IRS form 1040 Tax Return. You are entitled to order a copy of your … Continue reading See your Family Tax Return Transcripts
First of all: DON’T combine QDRO’s. It seems like such an innocuous, money saving measure. Go along to get along. You’re no longer married and it seems like we should be done with these things. Who knew we have to cooperate to get your QDRO completed. I met with client today whose now ex-husband gave her an Excel spreadsheet in which he had done the … Continue reading Combining QDRO’s
“His attorney said I had no choice…” A client came in yesterday to process a Canadian account from her ex-husband’s employer. While we were talking she mentioned that “his attorney” said it was “written in the MSA (Marriage Settlement Agreement) and that she had no choice but to have her alimony discontinued” when her ex retired. What?! I had read her MSA and knew that … Continue reading Alimony and Retirement
I had a paddle boarding date last weekend, a lovely man, but I don’t think we were a fit–despite a stellar day on the water. He was introspective, and a man who looked at life and people as tenderly as I’d seen in awhile. Here’s an observation, he was a good provider. They raised two kids together and both went off to college etc. In … Continue reading Saver and Spender – Who Is Who?
How do we know how much we need (or will need) to come out ahead at the end of the month? When I am sitting down with a new client, she often asks this question, followed by something about not knowing, or thinking they spend too much, or don’t make enough. There have often been voices in her life saying that she “spends too much” … Continue reading A Spending Plan – Gathering your data
Okay, I have a long history with renting cars–or rather, my lack of a credit card, post-divorce, and the inability to rent a car using traditional rental companies kind of experience. Enterprise Rent-a-Car was the only company that would let me use my lowly debit card. They would always take $300 cash out of my account as a deposit, but I’d do whatever it took … Continue reading Rental Cars While Traveling
When we were young, we were told by our mother’s to always use the “buddy-system” to keep ourselves safe. It could have been a sibling or a friend, so long as there was someone with you, our parents thought the likelihood of our safety and well-being was increased. Last weekend, I sat with a group of women, some old friends and some new. There was … Continue reading A Woman’s “Buddy-System” for Divorce
A friend of mine called the other day to tell me that she and her wonderful boyfriend were going to move in together after about a year. After all, they spent all their free time together already. She was quite glow-y and happy, but then I asked what she thought about the possibility of discontinuation of her spousal support. Queue the screech of a ’70’s … Continue reading A Cohabitation Pre-nup. Really?
I just finished reading this profile on Kat Cole. I’ve been reading to distill talking points for women who are working to figure it out. The tag line about a Hooters Girl making it to running a billion dollar brand (Focus Brands) is a great hook. However the subtitle “The Rise of the Self-Made American Woman” spoke to me more. Ms. Cole talked about a series … Continue reading Kat Cole and the #hustlemuscle
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